29-Year Old Woman Wastes 3 Years On a Stringer, Future Faker and Serial Monogamist

I recently found a subreddit called "Waiting to Wed" over on Reddit and it's goldmine for women who need a real wakeup call as to whether or not the man they've been with for many years will ever tie the knot.

My job is to get women on the right path towards marriage, and every one of these women, who have wasted 3, 5, 10 years on the wrong man, will never get the ring they are hoping for.

It's a very tragic and unfortunate reality for many millennial women in particular who have fallen victim to hookup culture. From the time they were teens in high school and well into adulthood, they shirked and shunned monogamy and committed relationships and allowed men to use up their most youthful years without getting the proposal they'd been dreaming about since they played Patty Cake.

And below I"m going to pick apart this 29-year old woman's plight and help you learn to spot stringers, future fakers, serial monogamists and all around bad characters who will never commit....

Also, my Secret Girl Game Club is now live and ready for you to join. You can get that hot, sexy, committed man to give you the ring you deserve without all the bs, heartache and wasted years. AND you can learn to have fun dating too!

Let's begin (the following has been edited for spelling and grammar)...

"My boyfriend (34) and I (F28) have been together just short of 3 years. We did long distance for about 2.5 years of the relationship, but at the 2.5 mark, I told him I was done doing long distance and he needed to make the decision to either get an apartment in the city where I live (he's from there originally) or we will need to break up.

He ultimately decided to move back and got his own apartment but we didn't move in together (smart move and the only thing she did right) as I've told him I'd like to be engaged/married before we move in together.

We've had many, MANY conversations about marriage and my desire to settle down with him. He's a wonderful partner and we get along very well, but he has a sort of complex about marriage.

He has always said he wants to marry me and we've gone through many tough things together - the loss of a parent, an abortion, new jobs, graduation of grad school, LDR, etc.

Before me, he lived with and proposed to his previous girlfriend. I guess she really wanted to get married and he felt a little stagnant in the relationship and wasn't ready for kids and she really was.

He broke her heart when he ended things with her and apparently she still talks about how "ruined her life is" because of what he did. Basically, the experience was life-altering for both of them and it seems like he's carried his complexes into our relationship about marriage.

Proposing is daunting for him, despite him constantly talking about how much he loves me and wants to be with me forever.

Regardless, I 'll be 29 soon and I've worked hard to become established in my career. The next chapter of my life, marriage, kids and building a home together.

I've given him a silent deadline til the end of the year (3 year mark) to propose but we're in October and I am afraid he really isn't going to do it. I know I can't control him, I can only control myself and nagging him isn't going to do me any good, but I guess I'm just sad he either has waited this long to do it, or he won't at all.

I need to stay strong in my boundary mainly because he told me directly that his plan is to propose this year. I told myself Jan 1st, I'm done. Also because he would be absolutely lying to me and making empty promises if not following through and I don't play with the self-respect.

Anyone have experience with a silent deadline? Is 3 years long enough? Am I doing the right thing?

Edit: I really want to make this clear. I have told him that I want to be engaged this year, point blank period. I do not by any means expect him to read my mind. He knows. My issue is that he agreed to it, but it's Oct and he does not seem concerned at all.

I feel it is in a way future faking and he is telling me he wants to marry me in order to keep me around, but not actually do it hence the silent deadline, where I will eventually have to call it quits and walk away.

Honey, he IS future faking! He's been future faking and stringing you along for 3 years and he's not going to up and surprise you and propose before the year's end either!

She even mentioned she had an abortion. What makes her think he wants marriage if he didn't want her to have a baby (worst part of this whole saga)?

This man is not thinking about marrying her at all. She's hoping for a white horse and red carpet engagement extravaganza by the end of the year, and marrying her hasn't crossed his mind one iota.

The fact of the matter is, she has been too lax, too silent, too forgiving, too gullible and too idealistic about this relationship that is going nowhere.

She has given him one too many chances. She has been stretched thin and he keeps on taking and taking and giving nothing.

"Move here, Mr. Stringer, and I'll forgive you for not marrying me."

"Tell me you want to marry me and be with me forever but never ever deliver, Mr. Future Faker, and I'll forgive you for not marrying me."

"I'll have this silent deadline until the end of the year and by then, I will forgive you for not marrying me."

Ladies, men KNOW what they are doing. They know they are lying when they say they "plan" to marry you soon but there's no ring in sight.

And a major red flag she overlooked was how he dished out the very same treatment to his ex and he destroyed her life. He bought her a shut up ring, wasted her youth and ended up leaving her and never marrying her.

If you have to use a cattle prod to get him to even think about marriage, to move across states, to get him to "agree" to a marriage down the line, he's not the man for you and he's not going to marry you.

And you need to dump him immediately. If you want to get married someday to the right man, you need to get rid of these bums NOW.

Let me tally up this list for you of all the things she did wrong:

1) Long distance relationship. STOP doing this, ladies. The man you want to marry needs to be front and center, fully present and accessible to you in a real life relationship. Face-to-face, having real conversations and going out on real dates.

So many women are wasting their lives on parasocial relationships with men in their phones. Long distance relationships fall under this category because he is not there, he's somewhere else unavailable and away from you.

2) Had struggle love with him believing this would lead to marriage. "We had hard times together and we had a lot we had to work through therefore the ring should be next," when it isn't. A ring doesn't come from struggle, it comes from honesty and commitment.

3) Believed his lies instead of observing his actions. He ran with a whole lot of lip service but in the end, he didn't make any plans towards the marriage. He sat inert and lazy and appeased her with lots of great-sounding empty words, meanwhile there's no ring, no date and she's inching that much closer to 30.

4) "By Jan 1st, I am done." She shouldn't give him until Jan. 1st, she should be gone asap. A commenter said she should dump him before the holidays so she doesn't have to waste a single second more of her time and emotional reserves over Thanksgiving and Christmas (for which I 100% concur).

What a mess. A real mess.

The sole reason I began Secret Girl Game Club is because women are in dire need of the appropriate life skills to find a husband.

They need to realize and understand how uncommitted men will lie about marriage. How they will use them and hang them out to dry when they're through with them and they won't even think twice about it. How they don't plan to marry them and never did because they are not intent on staying for the long haul.

Ladies, don't do long distance. Don't cattle prod a man into considering marrying you. Don't wait on engagement deadlines that will never come.

You must make sure you establish boundaries early on and make it clear that marriage is important to you and being a forever girlfriend and placeholder is NOT for you. And quickly dump these bums who can't give you the ring you rightfully deserve.

Love and Many Blessings,

Jenny