A follower on Instagram thanked me today for introducing Wayne Dyer's work into his realm of thought some months back in one of my Instagram stories, and he's seen vast improvements in his life in terms of personal well-being and success.
I know I give out lots of dating advice, but it's important to remember this:
Who we are is the kind of people we'll attract into our lives.
Strong, confident people with well and just intentions who know what they want out of life will attract their mirror image in a partner–along with their vocation, the places they live and visit along with the entire existence they want to shape for themselves and embody.
Many of you are under 30 years old and are still trying very hard to navigate this thing we call "life." I've been there. We all have. And I can assure you, you play your cards right and revolutionize your way of thinking, you can have everything your heart desires. And so much more.
I also mentioned today that I wasn't fundamentally happy nor was I perfectly well-adjusted as a young person until I was 28 years old.
Lucky for me, that was precisely the time I found Wayne Dyer on PBS. His work completely changed my life in countless ways and I haven't been the same person since.
You see, my parents were what they call "realists" and yes, it accompanied quite a bit of pessimism that very often comes neatly-packaged with realism. Which is why the red pill, made up almost entirely of former blue pill super-idealists, is consistently bent out of shape about the realism behind the red pill's ideology.
Thus in a sense, I was never really too shocked in learning much about the red pill when I witnessed it spring up out of essentially nowhere sometime in the late aughts. By 2012 I knew all there was to know about the red pill but essentially, it wasn't news to me because my parents always told me the ugly truth about virtually everything.
They didn't lie to me about boys and their intentions. They instead told me the stinking truth in all its ugliness so they could protect me from harm. I'd always understood women too because I've been surrounded by them all my life having witnessed the most beautiful parts of them through lifelong friendships along with all the really ugly parts–the competitiveness, the shunning and social isolation, etc,. I witnessed more than my fair share of both sides of the "female coin" and it gave me a solid perspective on female nature from a very young age.
And really, that's what our parents used to do–arm us with common sense, wisdom and the balls to stand up for what's right. Especially as it relates to our own personal well-being and that of the people we love and care about.
However, where they completely missed the mark was in their pessimism. I was a pessimist too for a period of my young life (particularly early 20's which is universally miserable for both men and woman alike) and I had some trouble in my relationships–I had been attracting negative energy because that's what I was putting out.
By age 25, something just clicked then too. They say 25 is when your brain finally stops growing and reaches full maturity. I think that's true as well because 25 for me suddenly felt like I had a very firm grasp on who I was as a woman and an individual person.
But still, I was a pessimist. Albeit a much more mature and evolved one, but still a pessimist. So I went on about my business for the next year when I met my husband at 26 and got married. And you can probably surmise that at that "grown up" point in my life, I possessed enough attractive qualities to attract the man of my dreams and run off and get married.
However, once again, it wasn't until age 28 that I found Wayne Dyer and his lectures and they completely revolutionized my way of thinking. For the very first time in my life I learned what true optimism was (NOT blue pilled rose-colored bs and lies) and how it would eventually greatly benefit the entire span of my life moving forward–my marriage, my family life, my career, and my outlook on things gave way to the person I am today.
I'm always happy. I'm never bored. I find the good in any situation and I'm thrilled and feel very, very fortunate to be who I am. I wake up every morning with that as my sole reality rather than a fleeting afterthought or a snore-worthy, tired cliche.
Wayne Dyer says:
"When you change the way you think, everything changes."
It did for me. And I know it will for you too. So try listening to the following video for the next 30 days and see for yourself you too can revolutionize your way of thinking and start living your dream life, right now, today.
Love and Many Blessings,
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