How to Treat a Woman So She Will Love and Cherish You
"Most guys will fall all over themselves to take a rain check. Most guys will keep texting her like a doofus glossing it over like nothing happened. Most guys will wait longingly for her to reengage like a doggy on the other side of the screen waiting for a cheap, little doggy treat."
A guy I've been acquainted with who follows my Instagram page made a few stark observations to me a couple weeks ago concerning 50/50 i.e. "equality" in relationships.
He insisted that you can't give a woman 50/50 or you will always be retreating and licking your wounds in the doghouse.
We had some further discourse where he confessed he "requires a woman to give 70-80% while he gives 20-30%." Then he further stated a couple of things that really stuck out to me (that I've more or less endorsed all along):
- If a woman is treating him like shit, he backs off entirely thereby prompting her to begin treating him better.
- He always pays very close attention to the way a woman is treating him. If she's not into him, he doesn't waste any more of his time trying to win her over.
- He doesn't allow himself to be disrespected in any way. He has no trouble saying no and he realizes that women treat him much better when he has clear boundaries in place. He expects to be treated well as a man and will accept no less.
- He will not chase a woman like a canine (that means no begging, no buttkissing, and no doing simp tricks for doggy treats). If a woman isn't making herself available to him, he makes himself unavailable to her. He focuses his efforts on women who demonstrate they actually want to be with him and does not waste any of his efforts on women who don't.
He has a very young woman of 22 he plans to marry based on all these strategies and personal rules (he's late 30s). And he once told me prior that this woman expressed to him that she was having difficulty in finding a man who does any of the above (to her dismay).
Whether or not any of this is deemed "80/20" or "70/30" is up for debate. But there's no arguing that how he's conducting himself with women is getting him results.
And I said to him, "You're just being a man. I don't think there's a single thing wrong with what you're doing in your relationship. It's completely reasonable."
Because it is. The modern day simping and asskissing from men is an entirely new phenomenon only occurring within the last 5-10 years. Throughout most all of history before now, men acted like MEN.
So how should you treat a woman? Do you really need to be an asshole?
Yes and no. But you will certainly need to have boundaries and self-respect with women if you expect to do well with them and get any results. Period. End of story. And the good news is, it's not all that complicated nor is it impossible for you to be a MAN of whom women treat really well.
So here's how you do it: