I'm interrupting you with an intermission this evening on my "Inspiring Men" series to share a video many of you asked for based on my IG story about a middle-aged man who attempted to cheat on his wife with a 20-something pornstar.
Lately and especially, I'm seeing a lot of disinformation being peddled by situationship gurus concerning settling for people you're not attracted to and insisting that it just "makes sense" and "people can learn to love someone over time."
America's dirty little secret in the 21st century is the fact that millions upon millions of people are married or shacking up with people they aren't attracted to–and it's causing all kinds of unforeseen problems that are turning people into furious reprobates. Because ultimately, a lifetime without good sex with someone you love of whom you are deeply attracted is liable to bring out the desperate degenerate in anybody.
Which is why so many middle-aged men and women today are trying to have sex with young 20-somethings–they're starving for earth-shattering sex and the intimacy they never experienced as young people.
This man has been married to a woman he isn't attracted to for 15 years. He calls the marriage "platonic." He told his wife he wants to leave her for a 20-something pornstar who's the victim of online romance scammers using her pictures to scam people out of money. And Stephen was the perfect candidate for this scam.
If you want a real glimpse into what a dead bedroom relationship looks like, take a very close gander at it here:
Narcissistic delusion, cognitive dissonance, pick me nonsense from hell, and a remorseless, old, foolish man who appears to have a proclivity towards wanting affairs with young pornstars–and an ultra-pickmeeee who will put up with any and all horrible treatment because she jus wuvvvs him sooo muchhh!
Yup, Tammy gave him the green light for having online affairs. She even helped nurture (nurture gone very, very wrong ffs) Stephen's tendency in wanting to stray outside of the marriage. "Sure, you can have online affairs, honey! Whatever makes you happy!"
Ladies, if you want to wait until you're 40 to find a man, you could very well be settling with a man like Stephen who's desperately chasing his youth and trying to sow his wild (and tired) oats in middle age.
I read the other day on a subreddit something to effect of some men being willing to settle down with a woman they don't particularly care for and aren't attracted to. I believe that to be true which explains the phenomenon that they will marry down because they want more dominance in the relationship.
Or they stay in an uncommitted long-term relationship with a woman and use up her best years and dump her when she's 40. "Suitable" enough for now, but certainly not for a lifetime.
I'm beginning to think it's even more common than most of us realize. Based on women's pickme behavior in this day and age especially and men's willingness to be in a long-term relationship with women because they're "convenient," this is often how it ends up.
I'll be doing a thorough writeup in the very near future concerning whether men tend to settle in relationships or not along with pickmes and their role in this dynamic.
Stay tuned for tomorrow's continuation of the "Inspiring Men" series. See you then. <3
Love and Many Blessings,
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