How to Vet a Man Much More Thoroughly to Find Out If He Just Wants Sex
"I use it as a process of elimination. I'll tell a man that strictly to assess his character and his intentions, not to try and use it as a bargaining tool to try and extract commitment from him."
I realize I've gone into great detail before in discussing how to determine if a man is just trying to use you for sex.
However, it remains a stubborn issue and women increasingly have a hard time figuring out if a man just wants to sleep with them, only to find out after the fact when the irreparable damage is already done.
It typically goes like this:
- Guy is super duper interested (they all are in the beginning when the hormones of newness and variety are riding high)
- Guy is very attentive, texts back all the time every time and pays for a few expensive dates
- The woman hops into bed with him on the 3rd or 4th date
- He now begins a slow fade until he inevitably ghosts
Then very often the cycle repeats with the woman having not learned her lesson in how this scenario usually ends up and becomes bitter and blames the whole of men because she's hurt, rejected and humiliated. Which is understandable.