Oops. There should be NO such thing as stress in a relationship. Ever. Right?
It should always be perfect from start to finish. No warts and all, just roads paved with gold leading straight to their unblemished, unsullied, perfect little hearts.
It should be rainbows and butterflies and only feelgood, fuzzy emotions.
It should be just dandy and smooth-sailing all the way to Lovetown.
Unfortunately, that's not how a great relationship works. As you know, a great relationship often makes you feel a large variety of things. Such as:
- Pangs in your heart and stomach
- Some anger and sadness
- Care and concern
- Purpose, great meaning, inspiration
It's this colorful myriad of feelings and emotions that make us truly desire and love another person.
By contrast, temporary, (and often casual) meaningless relationships lack the much needed meat and depth listed above.
They also lack any staying power that goes well beyond dopamine rushes, approval-seeking, and pats on the head like a good doggy when you do "get it right" in today's fleeting and temporary relationships.
And people insist you should never have the intention of stressing people out either. Because "they won't like you" and they "won't approve of you" if you actually do what's right and necessary in a relationship. People will allegedly HATE you if you stress them out with some much needed boundaries.
These people couldn't be any more wrong.
Folks, I've always put up boundaries in my relationships. And men loved me for it. It gave us both a lot of thrills along with some substance (again, listed above) in these relationships.
They never leave me.
I'm always top priority.